Today Jim and I celebrate our 42nd wedding anniversary. There wasn’t a lot of fanfare, he made me breakfast in bed as usual, but there was time for reflection. Forty plus years is a long time, for anything — particularly a marriage, it certainly doesn’t seem like so many years have passed us by but the calendar doesn’t lie.
How times have changed. When I look back, we met on a blind date and only knew each other two weeks before we were making our wedding vows. Nobody gave us a chance of surviving, they were all saying it won´t last past Christmas! I don’t think we had any expectations, we just knew it was the right thing to do. Like many young, optimistic couples, money didn’t seem to be a large concern. Not because we had any — just the opposite, Jim was a computer engineer, on a salary of £1,100 a year. We had furniture borrowed from friends and family and eventually bought our first house.
As young adults of the Swinging Sixties, we had grown up with change, we were happy being impulsive and different. The biggest social change we’d seen included the Pill and its by-product, the feminist movement. It clearly gave women more control and changed the whole way people used to live and think – changed it completely. The environmentalist movement also began to increase dramatically in this period and we were keen supporters of Greenpeace. When our babies were tiny, they protested (albeit sitting in their baby buggies) at Canada House, against the cruel and needless killing of baby seals, we marched against the Japanese for their slaughter of whales and we protested about nuclear power. All this we did through both the good times and the bad as we journeyed together on the highway of life.
Where did all the years go? The army, babies, careers, loss of parents, houses and jobs, travel near and far, good times and not so good times but all of it knowing we were in it together for the long haul.
It’s been a good journey and I’m thankful for a good partner to share it all with.
I couldn’t resist sharing a shot of our wedding picture, a few of the years between and finally one taken of the two of us recently. Amazing the changes in 42 years!
And of course the title of this blog refers to this piece of music which we think sums up our relationship perfectly.