When faced with a decision, it is natural to seek advice and because I am on many social networking fora, I regularly receive messages from strangers. This isn’t a problem, I quite like getting messages from people who are genuinely interested in what Tenerife has to offer, but I’ll admit I don’t have all the answers. I make it clear I will not recommend accommodation or restaurants because whether they are good or not is all down to personal taste so my reply will be purely my opinion and nothing else.
So what has pissed me off to write this blog? I was asked what the weather would be like in the middle of June. The conversation went along the lines of…
(Him) … We are concerned about the amount of cloud, as we really would like unbroken sunshine. Can you tell us what to expect.
(Me) … Unfortunately, like everyone I have to wait and see. June is generally nice but whether it is cloudless is another thing.
(Him) … I didn’t explain properly. What I’m after is advice on what the weather is generally like in June. If someone asked me, what it would be like in Greece I would confidently say loads of sunshine with maybe a bit of cloud but 98% chance of blue sky. Friends say Tenerife tends to get a lot of cloud… not just a few bits. As we like to sunbathe that is off putting. Could you tell us if in your experience this is true?
I thought ‘in my experience’ I had answered the question but before my fingers went tippety-tap composing a reply that would only take a moment, I remembered words on the internet live forever. Therefore, I suggested the person may benefit by seeking the opinion of others and subsequently I received the reply… Ok. Just your reply didnt answer my question!
Now after a fair time span, I cannot see that they have asked the question of others. Indeed looking at their personal page it doesn´t look as if they have returned to the website. So why did they suddenly choose me to ask their question
- Is it that they wanted to validate or disprove their friend’s advice?
- Were they seeking approval they should continue going to Greece or
- Did they want a decision making for them and if wrong, they had someone else to blame?
As humans, sometimes it is easier to agree, we tend to get that warm and fuzzy feeling when we’re all on the same page but I certainly would not be giving any guarantees as to what weather would be doing two months down the line.
So rant over….I’m not saying that just because someone gives you advice you have to take it. Heck, I’ve ignored lots of advice in my day! Ultimately, only you get to decide what’s best for you. However, remember that when you ask for information you are imposing on that person’s time and attention so should at the very least whether you like what it says or otherwise read the reply!